would it be appropriate to go for a funeral with just your middle finger nails painted bright blue?

while no one is really "good with death" per se, i think i have been able to deal with it alright, in the times it has occurred to people in my life. what i am goddamnit awful with, is dealing with grieving people. im so bloody awful at it, to the extent that i even somehow skip the whole "im sorry for your loss" part and run straight in for "hey, hows it going? the food looks good." and yes i am well aware that that is rude.

but i truly am at a loss in those situations. im not sure i should apologize because, geez! i didnt kill your grandpa, but i do wish you weren't feeling that bad, but if you weren't that would mean you didnt really love him so it wouldn't hurt if i asked you if you wanted to get a couple of beers after this whole shebang is over.

oh praise the good lord, woman!!

you think they have those etiquette classes where they teach you how to deal with people with dead relatives?

or maybe, on second thought, another helping of sensitivity couldn't hurt either, right.

right.

oh well.